We live in a world that puts a lot of emphasis on our appearance. We see it all the time in the movies and on TV. We see hundreds of weight loss products. We see the nicest looking people on TV. Many women go through plastic surgeries to improve how they look like just to fit into society. Being pretty is part of our society. And so people who are ugly feel negative about themselves because they are excluded from others.
Here is the thing about ugliness. If you are ugly there is nothing you can do about it. Beauty products are only to enhance your appearance, but if your appearance is repulsive then there is nothing you can do about it. All you do with beauty products is just waste your time and money. And do not go for plastic surgery the thing looks ridiculous. It is obvious to tell which women in their 50's get plastic surgery by seeing how artificial their faces look like. No clothes that you can wear can also make you pretty unless you hide your face in some bag. This is the way things about. And there is nothing you can do about it to change your appearance.
But there is something you can do to change your mentality and make yourself happy. The first thing you need to do is recognize the impossibility of making yourself pretty, or even normal looking. Just tell yourself, "I am an ugly piece of repulsive meat" in the mirror one day and accept yourself for what you are. Self-esteem programs are all about self-deception. They tell you to lie to yourself. Self-esteem programs tell you, "I am a beautiful person" when you look into the mirror. But all that is, is self-deception. And you know it. When self-esteem programs tell you, "I am beautiful on the inside", deep down inside you really know what that means, "I am a disgusting piece of repulsive meat that no one wants to sleep with". You cannot be happy with self-deception because you will truly know what you are. So the first step of overcoming your depression over your appearance is to tell yourself, "I am a disgusting piece of meat" and accept yourself for what you are.
Once you accept your ugliness you can begin to appreciate the advantages of ugliness that normal and pretty looking people do not have. I realized this as an ugly person myself. I realized that when you are ugly, and you accept yourself for being ugly, then you are no longer bothered by your appearance. An ugly person does not care about how he looks like because he has no one to impress. I have no one to impress because I am physically repulsive. And so I am free to try whatever styles I want. I am free to come to university classes wearing a purple suit, because I do not care how people perceive my appearance. I know that I will never get any pussy or anus, I am a disgusting piece of meat, so why should I care about how I look? Physical appearance is really all about getting some action from other people. Girls do it to attract boys and boys do it to have a chance to get some actions from girls. So normal people are not freed from social norms. Because they need to care about how they look like, they need to care about what other people see when they look at them. Pretty people have it the worst. They are constantly thinking about their weight and appearance all the time. They always have this constant fear that perhaps they did something which is wrong. However, if you are physically repulsive then you never care for these things. You are freed from social norms. You are freed from all of these distractions that face other people. And you have the time to really live as a unique individual rather than some Borg entity trying to fit into some collective. You might be ugly, but at least you live for yourself, not for what others perceive of you. So ugliness is not bad at all, just change your perception.
See the really nice thing about accepted ugliness is that you can dress how you want to dress. Something you never had before. If you like wearing flip-flops with socks you get to do that without worrying of what other people may think of your appearance. Or if you like a shirt that does not fit in with the current fashion style but you like it then wear it. Ignore all the rules and live how you want to live. Ugly people have this kind of freedom, not pretty people who worry to fit in with the established fashion system.
Here is a great video about appearance: Here.